"I’ve grown up my whole life playing second-fiddle to the pretty girl. And it took a really long time for me to realize that it’s okay to be who I am, and that in somebody’s eyes, I might be the pretty girl. Coming to terms with the amount of space I take up in the world, which is also like a feminist conceit too, because we’re taught from birth to shrink ourselves. Erasing fine lines and wrinkles. Shrinking two sizes. Making varicose veins disappear. It’s like this language that wants women to not be visible.” - Meredith Graves
I want to quote this entire video. This is perfect; she is the most beautiful speaker.
Those of us who think we know
the same secrets
are silent together most of the time,
for us there is eloquence
in desire, and for a while
when in love and exhausted
it’s enough to nod like shy horses
and come together in a quiet ceremony of tongues.
it’s in disappointment we look for words
to convince us
the spaces between the stars are nothing
to worry about,
it’s when those secrets burst
in that emptiness between our hearts
and the lumps in our throats.
And the words we find
are always insufficient, like love,
though they are often lovely
and all we have.
my parents eloped when my mother was 19 and this is a picture of her on their wedding night and it’s literally my favorite picture that exists of anyone, ever.
I need someone else to look into my eyes and tell me girl you
know you gotta watch your health X